Do I have questions about my partner’s sexual past? Of course—but I don’t feel that I’m owed an answer to them. If at some point he wants to share more, he will, just as I will. There are some stories that are better suited to friends, either because they might make the other person jealous, or they just aren’t relevant to your current relationship. I’ve had to let go of the idea that a healthy long-term relationship means that everything I’ve ever done is on the table for discussion.

How many people have you slept with? It’s usually a misleading figure, and one we have every right to hold close